Should I confess my feelings to my friend, which might mess up our relationship? If so, how should I?

Hi Anonymous,

I know from personal experience how tricky that can be. I think the best way to decide whether or not you should confess your feelings is to think about how much NOT telling them is interfering with your relationship. Is it all you think about when you’re with them? Does it bother you even when you’re not together? If this is the case, confessing your feelings might be in your best interest for your own mental well being.

If it just feels like a small crush, however, then maybe hold off for a little while and see if your feelings get stronger or fizzle out. If you do end up feeling like you want to ask them out, start simple. Ask to hang out one-on-one and feel the situation out. If you are too nervous for that, just send them a text and say you’ve been thinking about being more than friends. It will take the weight off of your shoulders. Not telling them how you feel and regretting it later is worse than not telling them at all.

Best of luck,

Emilia

As a guy, if you let a talking stage go on for too long, how recoverable is it later down the line with a girl?

Dear Anonymous,

I’ve seen this situation happen to my friends time and time again, and it’s all a result of poor communication. The talking stage is likely going on too long simply because you haven’t actually told the girl how you feel.

You can’t keep dragging this out. Are you waiting because you’re scared or because you’re not sure if you really like her? It can be daunting to express your feelings and move on with a relationship, but if you like her, all it will take is a little bit of honesty.

Best of luck,

Mary

How can I convince my friends that pigeons aren’t evil? – ThePigeon

Hi ThePigeon,

You can’t. To be honest with you, ThePigeon, pigeons are a public health hazard, and your friends should beware. According to the Canadian government, pigeon poop has been associated with diseases such as histoplasmosis and cryptococcosis, and you don’t want those. Pigeon poop is also acidic and can even destroy buildings! Please do not spread pro-pigeon propaganda.

Best,

Emilia

What is the best way to get your grades up after you have made up all your work???

Dear Anonymous,

Every student has been here. There have been classes where I tried my hardest and was still unhappy with my grade, but it’s important to know that your grade in this class does not define you. If you’re trying your best and learning in the process, that’s all that can be asked of you. Remember, term grades end up as end-of-year cumulative grades, so it usually all balances out.

I will say this, however: if you’re unhappy with a grade, you should talk to your teacher. You shouldn’t demand a better grade, but some teachers are sympathetic to students who feel their effort is not accurately reflected by their grade. Some teachers might frown at you for asking, but a lot of them appreciate a student who fights for their grade.

Still, the best thing you can do is just keep trying.

Best of luck,

Mary

Do you support the LGBTQIA+ community?

Hi Anonymous!

Here at the Argo, we are big supporters of the LGBTQIA+ community! In fact, many of us are queer ourselves, including Mary and I! A fun fact about the two of us is that we both worked at local LGBTQIA+ organizations last summer. Mary worked at the Boston Alliance of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer Youth, and I worked at Boston GLBTQ+ Adolescent Social Services. Both organizations have been helping queer youth in Boston for years, and you should definitely check them out.

Best, 

Emilia